A. Criteria for Selecting Candidates Wife
In choosing a wife, Islam has given them some clues:
1. A bride should have a basic education of good faith and for women who understand the religion will know their responsibilities as wives and mothers. As word of the Messenger of Allaah Allaah be upon him:
From Abu Hurayrah radliyallahu 'anhu from the Prophet of Allaah be, he said: "She was married for four cases, because of his wealth, his descendants, beauty, and because of his religion, then choose a religious woman, ye shall be happy." (Agreed upon )
Similarly, Allaah says:
"And do not marry women idolaters until they believe. In fact the believer slave woman is better than women polytheists, even though she allures you .... "(Surat al-Baqara: 221)
"So the women who shalihah is more obedient to God preserve him, therefore God preserve them." (Surat An-Nisa ': 34)
Shalihah for being a woman a man is the best to the world of jewelry.
"The world is a jewel, and the best jewelry shalihah world are women." (Narrated by Muslim)
2. Let's loving wife and many children.
Prophet of Allaah be to have said:
From Anas ibn Malik, the Messenger of Allaah 'alaihi wa sallam said: "... marry women loving and lots of children ...." (Narrated by Ahmad and Ibn dishahihkan Hibban)
Al Waduud means loving or can also mean full of love, with he has many good qualities, so that makes a man willing to marry her.
Medium Al Mar'atul Waluud are many women who bear children. In choosing a woman who gave birth to many children there are two things to note:
a. Physical health and diseases that prevent the pregnancy. To find out about it can ask for help to specialists. Therefore, a woman who has good health and a strong physique is usually able to bore many children, in addition to bearing the burden of household can also fulfill the obligation to educate children and to execute tasks in a perfect wife.
b. See how his mother and brothers and sisters who have married if they had included women who gave birth to many children, then usually she will like it.
3. Should choose a wife who still, especially for young girls who have never married.
Jabir, he said, I have been married so then I went to the Prophet 'alaihi wa sallam and said his peace' alaihi wa sallam: "Are you married?" Jabir said, so be it. Prophet said: "Virgin or a widow?" So I replied, widow. The Prophet said: "Will you not marry a virgin, you can play with him and he can play with you."
4. Priority to people far away (from family) in marriage.
To be able to know the religion and morals candidate's wife, one of them observing the candidate's wife lives everyday by asking people nearby, such as neighbors, friends, or relatives nearby. can also with a membinanya Ustad.
B. Criteria for Selecting Candidates for Husband
This is a very important criterion for a Muslim in selecting candidates for the husband with Islam is the only way to make us safe world and the Hereafter.
As word of Allaah:
"... And do not marry idolaters (with the women believers) until they believe. In fact the believer slave is better than the idolaters even though he allures you. They took into hell, while God invites to Paradise and pardon by His permission. And God explained the verses of his (the commandments of His) to mankind that they may take heed. "(Surat al-Baqara: 221)
2. Knowledge and good conduct to use ruqyah.
The future of the couple's life is closely related to choosing a husband, then Islam gives advice to choose a good moral, righteous, and religious.
The Messenger of Allaah 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"If you all were visited by someone who Dien and conduct to use ruqyah you ridhai then he Marry. If you all do not do it there will be fitnah on earth and tersebarlah damage. "(Narrated by At-Tirmidhi)
Islam has its own considerations and measures by putting them on the basis of piety and morality, and not make poverty a reproach and not make wealth as a compliment. As word of Allah, the Exalted:
"And Marry those among you alone and the people who deserve (marriage) and sahayamu servants of men and sahayamu servants are women. If they are poor, God will enable them with His grace and Allah is (giving him), the Knower. "(Surat An-Nur: 32)
From Abu Hurayrah radliyallahu 'anhu said: The Messenger of Allaah said:' alaihi wa sallam: "Do not hate a believer (male) in believing (women) if she does not like a behavior must be also other behaviors that she liked." (Narrated by Muslim)
In connection with selecting candidates for the daughter's husband by piety, Al-Hasan ibn Ali vol ever said to a man:
"Marry puterimu with men who fear for if he loved her then he will honor him, and if you do not like it then he will not mendzaliminya."
To be able to know the religion and morals future husband, one of them observing the prospective husband's life everyday by asking people nearby, such as neighbors, friends, or close relatives
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